Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” ~ Unknown
The literal meaning of this phrase is the perception of beauty is subjective, and first appeared on record in the 3rd century BC in a Greek text.
(source: http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/beauty-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder.html)
We are taught from a young age – by our parents, friends, the media and more – which traits are considered acceptable, attractive, pleasing to the eye, fashionable or trendy. In a nutshell, we are taught what is beautiful. Some of this is personal preference, but a lot of what we consider attractive is learned. What one culture might consider odd, unattractive or even unacceptable might be considered extremely attractive and highly sought-after in another.
What is considered healthy or fit has also gone through some trends and can vary drastically from culture to culture. In some cultures, carrying a little extra weight is considered healthy. To others, being fairly thin and not too muscular is the ideal. Then Sir-Mix-A-Lot gave big, round booties a place in the spotlight with his 1986 hit song Baby Got Back, and voluptuous backsides made a comeback. (I think glute styles are one of the most fluctuating fashionable muscle groups on the human body!)
It is in our nature, for the most part, to want to look and feel attractive, beautiful and healthy. Our animal instinct for survival of the fittest intrinsically tells us that the strongest, fittest and healthiest will carry on a stronger human race.
WHAT’S ON THE OUTSIDE REFLECTS WHAT’S INSIDE
With all of that being said, there are two very distinct issues at hand:
1. Health/fitness
2. External appearance/looks
This is where lines get crossed and things can get confusing. Just because someone looks like they work out or has a ripped physique, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are healthy. And just because someone has a larger frame and is carrying a little extra body fat doesn’t mean that person is unhealthy, or couldn’t run a half marathon.
Typically, your outer appearance is a reflection of your internal health. But because of our infatuation with wanting to have a certain look, it is not uncommon for people to sacrifice their health in order to attain that look.
I want to stress that there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look a certain way or have certain features such as six pack abs, muscular leg lines, toned arms or a firm, round booty. I’ve personally always wanted a muscular physique, and initially it was solely for the admiration of how beautiful I think muscular physiques are. But when I made the decision to pursue changing my physique to look more like a figure competitor, I also made sure that I went about it the right way – the healthy way – and gave myself a year to start my transformation.
I knew it would take time – months, years – to build a good, solid base through consistent strength training, very little caloric deficit with healthy, nourishing foods, and the right amount of cardio. I didn’t realize that on my journey to build a really cool-looking external physique I would gain so many internal health benefits – mentally, physically and emotionally – as well as lot of life lessons and amazing friends.
HEALTHY FROM THE INSIDE OUT
Over the years I have seen some people wanting to look a certain way so badly, as quickly as possible, that they will go to extreme measures to get that look. There are no short cuts, and some of the “quick fix” methods and procedures that are offered can ultimately lead to serious long term – and potentially permanent – health problems. One of the more mild, but very common issues I see, is yo-yo dieting – periods of being super strict followed by periods of going completely overboard. Long-term yo-yo dieting typically leads to metabolic damage (which affects hormones) that can take months, even years in some cases, to correct. Other forms of eating disorders can also lead to metabolic damage, as well as more severe long-term health risks.
Another example of sacrificing health for external appearance is if you have some type of injury, or are experiencing pain that could lead to injury, and you ignore it and push through it instead of listening to your body and taking a break. I experienced this in 2010 when I ran my first marathon, the Spinx Run Fest (Greenville, SC), and had a finishing time of 3 hours and 32 minutes (8:05 min/mi pace) which qualified me for entry into the prestigious Boston Marathon.
But with the goal of running the marathon so hard and fast (I only had one thing on my mind and that was to finish with a BQ), I ended up with severe plantar fasciitis. A few weeks after the marathon, I could barely walk let alone run. I was faced with the choice of either getting a cortisone shot and continuing to train for the Boston Marathon, or completely take a break from running until my foot was healed. I didn’t want to run the risk of potentially breaking my foot, so I decided to forego Boston and allow my foot to heal.
I ended up having to take a break from running for about three years before I could painlessly run again. I love to run. I accepted the fact that I might never be able to run as regularly, or as fast or as far as I once did. I cried. It was one of the hardest things to accept as a possible truth, but I did it for the sake of the overall health of my body. While I was taking a break from running, not sure if I’d ever be able to go back to it, I turned to weight lifting and began building my physique. So it was a blessing in disguise.
I can’t think of anything in this world that is worth sacrificing one’s health for. Everyone is on their own journey, and everyone has their own reasons and goals for exercising. But the whole point, when it comes down to it, is to live a healthier life. Isn’t it?
HEALTH & FITNESS CHECKLIST
While in pursuit of your health and fitness goals, whatever they may be, keep these in mind as a way for you to keep your health as the priority:
• Maintain a healthy weight and body fat percentage that feels good for you (some people just feel better at a certain weight, and for some it might be a little heavier or a little lighter).
• Gain a healthy, realistic level of strength and exercise endurance that allows you to function at a capacity that is optimal for you and your life, which can mean anything from chasing your toddler around to being able to do heavy yard work for a long period of time to running 5ks or Spartan races as a hobby to competing in bodybuilding shows.
• Center your diet around natural, whole foods that will nourish your body and prevent age-related illnesses and disease. In other words, using food as not only a way to reach your fitness and body composition goals, but also as preventative maintenance for long-term overall health and wellness.
• Listen to your body when you feel fatigued or sore for long periods of time (more than 3-4 days). These can be signs of overtraining and/or too severe of a caloric deficit. If you experience any pain other than muscular/strength fatigue-related pain, that could be an injury waiting to happen.
• Get regular doctor check-ups, roughly every 6-12 months. Have a full blood profile taken to check your cholesterol, hormones, vitamins B12 & D, iron, liver and kidney functions and other important health numbers.
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ABOUT NAOMI RABON
One of the trainers on Nicole’s elite NW Fitness Training Team, Naomi is a certified Personal Trainer and Fitness Specialist through the National Academy of Sports Medicine. She is a NPC Figure competitor who has been involved in the health and fitness industry for over 12 years.
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Thanks for this article Naomi. All too often we become so consumed with our physical appearance that we sometimes ignore/neglect what’s happening on the insides of our body. What should be the most important gets put on the back burner in order to achieve that “desirable” look. Thanks for reminding us of what is most important. You’re awesome! 🙂
Log in to replySo true, thank you sweet Marcia! You are pretty awesome yourself! 🙂
Log in to replyOh Naomi, I just wanted to say i know exactly how you felt when you had to give up running. I commented a couple weeks ago to thank you for your words because I’ve been out for a nine month injury. What caused it? Running through pain for way too long. Your words in this article are so good, and I hope they reach somebody pushing through pain that could cause severe life-changing consequences. I’ve cried a lot of tears, too.
Thanks again.
Log in to replySunny, that means so much! Thank you for your reply and I too hope this helps someone who may not realize they are hurting themselves in the long-run for what may seem like an immideate gain or gratification. I hope you’re doing well recovering from your injury! 🙂 xo ~ Naomi
Log in to replyAs always, your column is spot on and totally relatable – I came into weight lifting after I tore my hamstring in the Portland Marathon. I too had to give up running completely for about 4 years – I’m just getting back into it now – but in the meantime, I’ve really come to love my muscular physique. It is a total mental shift, and no doubt difficult to move away from an obsession with the scale (as you know, running is all about light weight, not big muscles)….thank you for your insight and the “permission” to be ok with myself, right here and right now.
Log in to replyAngela, thank you for your comment! Your response is why I write the content that I write – to truly help people on their fitness journey and live healthier, better quality lives. A big art of this process is being ‘ok’ with where you are and what you have to work with 😉 And it is a blessing to be able to look at the positive aspect of having to find an alternative to running: weightlifting! I was able to start running regularly again a few months ago and now I feel like I get the best of both worlds. But that wouldn’t have happened if I wasn’t forced to stop running 😉
Another interesting thing I learned (and am constantly reminded of ) is that we think our minds can over power any physical obstacle. The mind is very powerful, yes. So powerful in some cases that we push through unbearable pain – pain that we actually shouldn’t be pushing through. So there is a fine line when our mind needs to back off and allow our body to take the lead. Although “mind over matter” is true, if we keep pushing our body beyond its limits, it WILL break. If the body breaks, the mind is sure to follow suit, at least for a short time.
Ideally, the mind and the body should be working together in unison. If one is weaker and struggling through, it affects the other. If one is stronger, it can usually affect the other also – for example if you don’t feel like working out mentally, but you start working out and your body feels strong and you start feeling good, then you mentally get into the workout to and end up having a super great, strong wokout! 😀
Anyway, thank you for your comment! I am so glad to hear you have given yourself permission to be exactly where you are at right now, which sounds like a great place to be! xo ~ Naomi
Log in to replyNaomi, thank you for this article! It is spot on and something I really needed to read as I am someone who tends to get so focus and so darn stubborn about goals that I take things too far end up completely burning out and eventually fall of the wagon.
Thank you
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