Last week I wrote an article about first changing your mind-set so you can then change your behavior – Stop The Nutrition Roller Coaster – to better develop permanent healthy nutrition habits and stop the “roller coaster” once and for all. This week, I want to get a little deeper into how to change your approach to fitness – with nutrition and exercise.
Specifically: How can you change your attitude about healthy nutrition and regular exercise so that it becomes part of your everyday life?
I believe your approach to exercise and nutrition all comes down to what you consider normal.
WHAT IS NORMAL?
According to Wikipedia, the definition of normal in reference to behavior is “conforming to an average.” In reference to a societal norm, normal means “expected patterns of behavior within the context of society.”
Did you catch that? Expected patterns of behavior within the context of society.
Man, are we in trouble.
This is what we are up against in today’s normal “context of society” (the majority of these figures comes from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention – the CDC):
• The percentage of children with obesity in the United States has more than tripled since the 1970s.
• Today, about one in five school-aged children (ages 6-19) is classified as obese.
• More than 20,000 US youth younger than age 20 had type 2 diabetes in 2009 and more than 5,000 new cases of type 2 diabetes are estimated to be diagnosed for that age group each year.
• Diabetes was the seventh leading cause of death in the United States in 2013.
• Heart disease is the leading cause of death in the United States, affecting people of all ages, genders and backgrounds, and affecting about 610,000 people (1 out of every 4 deaths) in the US every year.
• Coronary Heart Disease (CHD) is the most common type of heart disease, killing over 370 people annually. CHD is caused by plaque (deposits of cholesterol and other substances) buildup in the walls of the artery that supply blood to the heart.
• Every year, about 735,000 Americans have a heart attack. Of these, 525,000 are a first heart attack and 210,000 happen in people who have already had a heart attack. A heart attack, also called a myocardial infarction, occurs when part of the heart muscle doesn’t receive enough blood flow, most likely due to the above mentioned CHD.
Guess what the CDC references as medical conditions and lifestyle choices that put people at a higher risk for heart disease?
• Diabetes
• Overweight/obesity
• Poor diet
• Physical inactivity
• Excessive alcohol use
A frightening coincidence (maybe not) is the correlation between increased lifestyle-related deaths and diseases (poor food choices and inactivity) and the increased demand for convenience foods. An article published on Dec. 30, 2016 on www.fooddive.com revealed that the biggest driver of sales growth in food trends in 2016 was (drum roll) … convenience.
These two issues: a rise in preventable, lifestyle-related diseases affecting people at a younger and younger age, and an increase in consumer-driven convenience foods (if the people want it, the food manufacturers will make it!) is the reality that is our context of society, guys!
This is what we’re up against. This is why it is so hard to change the way you think about fitness, particularly nutrition.
Because it is not the norm.
PROUD ODDBALL
I am admittedly not normal by today’s standards. How do I know this? Because what I consider normal everyday life seems odd or out of the ordinary to many other people. And what many other people consider normal seems odd or out of the ordinary to me. I’m ok with that because of what I see happening with people’s health as summarized above – and the above statistics are just the tip of the iceberg.
All of this came to the forefront of my mind last week after I posted a video on Instagram of my 9-year-old son Gryphon exercising at our neighborhood playground. He did some biceps curls with 5 pound dumbbells, assisted pull-ups on the monkey bars and a few other exercises.
Someone commented on my post: “Not too young?” I politely responded: “No, not too young to learn how to exercise and incorporate fitness into his life.”
VIDEO GAMES + FRENCH FRIES vs EXERCISE + OUTDOOR ACTIVITY
I started thinking about all of the things kids do in today’s societal norms: playing video games for hours, eating unhealthy foods etc. How is it we live in a world where exercising and playing on monkey bars comes into question and could possibly be thought of as not age appropriate?
This is just one of many things I have bene questioned about but I consider completely normal. Here are a few other things that I consider normal but are probably not part of today’s societal norms:
• About once a week, I run either one or two miles to and from Gryphon’s school to have lunch with him (if I go the back way, it’s two miles, if I go the front way, it’s one mile).
This seems strange to the school office ladies, the janitors and the school principal, who have all made comments about how unusual (but very cool) it is that I do that. It’s a two minute drive, and it seems silly to me to drive a car for two minutes when I could just run or walk.
• I run with my son at his Run Hard Club practice.
• I participate in my son’s Jump Rope For Heart Jump-A-Thon every year, jumping rope with all the crazy hyper kids in the gym.
• I don’t socialize or go out much at all in the way of partying or eating out or going on trips, etc. (once in a blue moon)
• I food journal in My Fitness Pal as part of my everyday life and I don’t even really think about it anymore, it’s just something I do.
There was a time when it was normal to walk or bike to school. It was normal to prepare your own meals (there was no other option). It was normal to do manual, physical labor from sun up to sun down (even young kids worked on farms, lifting, pulling, plowing, moving their bodies and using their muscles) every day!
Yes, we have many more civilized, modern conveniences now but we also have more unhealthy and unfit people walking around now than ever before, too.
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR NORMAL
As you can see from some of the things I do on a daily or weekly basis, I have changed my normal. I had to. I believe the human body was meant to eat in order to be nourished and meant to move in some way every day. But the world we live in today makes it so much harder because it is not the normal mind set anymore.
This means it may be a challenge for you to try to live a healthy, fit lifestyle. Especially if you have family, friends, a job, etc. that make it even harder for you to make good nutrition choices and make time for regular exercise. You will have to create your own new normal , and maybe make some choices and incorporate habits that go against what others might consider normal.
But if you look at the average, normal American with all the above statistics, are you ok with normal? Or do you want better for yourself? If so, you have to make better choices, incorporate better habits and say “I’m not normal! I’m not ordinary … I’m extraordinary!”
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Hi Naomi-
Log in to replyI am very interested in what you are saying. I love the holistic approach- connecting nutrition and mindset.
I have used MyFitnessPal and other apps like it for years. I feel sometimes that I may be too obsessive about it (at least that’s what I’ve been told) and to a certain degree, I may agree. I log everything I eat, I measure and weigh my food (and have for years). I was always told that “normal” people don’t do that. I am perfectly okay with being extraordinary!
My concern is that I am too inflexible with food. If it’s not on my plan, I don’t eat it. If I fall off the wagon, then I fall HARD. I feel panicked in situations surrounding food- parties and social gatherings. Food is such a big part of these celebrations and I feel that when I log my food, I’m too strict and then I binge.
How do you balance your healthy lifestyle and societal norms? Or don’t you?
Nicole-
I understand your struggles, which is not uncommon and why I wrote this article. I don’t compromise any part of my life that I feel is important to my health and well-being (mental, physical or emotional) in order to conform to today’s societal norms, or what the majority of people think of as normal. That is not my world, and if I tried to conform to it then my physical and metal state would be a wreck! I would be unhappy, on anti-depressants and probably drink too much lol!
I live my life based off what I feel is important to me and good for me. That is the only way I can live. If you are modifying your actions, bahavior, habits and life to please someone else, or to adhere to someone else’s idea of ‘normal,’ then you are not living YOUR life. You are living what you think is someone else’s idea of your life.
I have food journaled for 1,156 cosecitive days as of today, which is about 3.5 years. Guess what? No body else cares. And if they did, I wouldn’t care if they cared or not. If they don’t want to food journal then they don’t have to. I don’t feel pressured to do it, nor do I feel like I NEED to. I just enjoy living day-to-day food journaling. I don’t freak out if once in a while I miss sjournaling a meal.
Someone else’s idea of normal has nothing to with you – as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. If you are comfortable eating a certain way and exercising at a certain level, then that is your call. It is up to you to decide what is too much, like if your fitness starts getting in the way of other priorities then it is up to you to say it’s too much then scale back a bit.
That, to me, is balance. If I were to prep for a competition right now, for example, it would affect the time, energy and attention I am able to spend with my son. To me, that would throw my life out of balance. You only have to balance your health, fitness and life with your ideals and priorities. It is not selfish to take care of your health and be fit to your standards. And being fit and healthy really shouldn’t affect anyone else around you that you care about.
I hope this helps!
Log in to replyThank you! Yes- this helps so much! I will do what I feel is best for me. Makes perfect sense (as long as I don’t overthink it).
Log in to replyI’m definitely not normal and PROUD of it!!! Thank you Naomi for such great articles 🙂
Log in to replyHello fellow proud oddball! Thank you, sweet Angela, for being a loyal reader and enjoying the articles 😉 xo
Log in to replyThis article makes healthy food taste a lot better! After seeing the statistics it gives a reality of how eating unhealthy, diabetes, heart disease and sedentary lifestyle is a “norm” of society. Wonderful article!! You are such a talented writer and always find a way to write an article that reaches out to everyone!! ??❤️
Log in to replySteph- Being a nurse, I know you have to deal with this first hand, so you SEE what ‘the norm’ is every day and the consequenses involved! I am glad you have created a new normal for yourself, it is so wonderful to see you become healthier, fitter and stronger every day!! 😀 xo ~
Log in to replyI’m proud to be “abnormal”. I leave my office and head to the gym at lunch each day, as well as log my meals. I do struggle on the weekends and need to start carrying my cooler on Saturdays and Sundays again. I will continue to be an oddball if it helps me stay healthy and avoid the medical issues you listed in your article. Thanks for reminding me I’m not alone. I love your articles and great job with Gryphon and his workouts!!! Is his name inspired by the book by Nick Bantock? Just curious???
Log in to replyAimee- you are definitely not alone, and in good company! 😉 If you know that weekends are a challenge for you, try to pin-point what it is about the weekends that make it a challenge with eating healthy and come up with a plan (as you mentioned, carrying your cooler) so that you are prepared! 😀
Thank you! I remember having about 2-3 baby name books because I wanted to make sure I picked a name for Gryph that was unique but that I wouldn’t later regret lol! There were a few names that stuck out to me: Connnor (from Highlander, Connor McCloud – of the Clan McCloud, lol), Orion (after Orion’s Belt, which I still think is pretty cool), or Gryphon, after the mythological creature that has the head of an eagle and the body of a lion. I think I knew about 3-4 other little boys named Connor running around, so it was too popular at the time and I wanted an uncommon name. With Orion, I figured people would end up just calling him Rion (which is still kinda cool). But ultimately chose Gryphon 😀 … I will have to check out that book you mentioned by Nick Bantock!
Thanks so much Aimee!
Log in to replyThank you for this article, Naomi! I have been in this position for years now, and it definitely still makes me feel uncomfortable to the point I tend to take my food and eat by myself at work and other situtations where “normal” people are around! lol. How do you deal with the inevitable “oh THAT looks healthy” and “what is THAT” when eating your own prepped food? I know these comments shouldn’t bother me, but it gets so irritating having to explain over and over again that this is just how I eat, what I enjoy, and NO i am not on a “diet” haha.
Thank-you for the reassurance that being not normal is still a-ok 🙂
Log in to replyKatie- I completely understand where you’re coming from! I am not a fan of explaining my eating style to anyone. I love teaching people how they can eat healthy based on their food preferences , work schedule and lifestyle. But having to explain to people what I eat and why I eat the way that I eat feels so invasive and uncomfortable to me too. It’s almost like an ‘off-limit’ topic, like a stranger asking me about my sex life lol! I am not sure why I feel this way either, but I mostly eat in private if possible so that I can avoid the ‘nose in my food container’ questions.
I wish I had a better answer for you. If I do get questions, I keep things as simple as possible like “I just feel better when I eat healthy and feel like garbage if I don’t, so I usually just eat healthy all the time because it feels good and I enjoy it.”
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Log in to replyGreat article and very motivating! I needed to hear this! Why is it that people need to give there opinion on how you should raise your kids! I also feel as parents we need to set examples for our kids! I definitely want to influence my kids in a positive way!
Log in to replyThanks for this article and reminding me that we need to redefine “normal”!!
Leah
Absolutely, Leah!! 100% 😉
Log in to replyI love this. I didn’t think about running/walking to my kiddos’ school to have lunch with them. It’s only 1.7 miles from out house. I’m going to start including that in my schedule. Thank you.
Log in to replyDenise, that is great to hear! It is a great way to get your cardio in, and to teach your kids some great life-long healthy habits 😉
Log in to replyThank you so much for this article. I’m working on accepting myself as I feel best & not letting others’ opinions or judgements about MY normal bother me. i just had an incident this holiday weekend where I politely refused a slice of cake that really provoked me to think about this topic. I don’t have to live like everyone else. thanks again Naomi for another great tip me Tuesday!
Log in to replyLove this! My son is five and already talks about working out and says he works his legs….LOL he likes to run too! Children learn from their parents for sure! A lot of people don’t get it which does not make them bad people. It is hard work to put in four five days at gym and resist foods. Not everyone has it in them. Glad my son is on the right path. I want him to live a long healthy life. I love that you have lunch with your son. I hope when my son starts school they will let me come have lunch with him! Thanks for great article!
Log in to replyTotally agree. I am with you 100%. Do the same and have for years. I love it! Thank you Naomi we are normal. x
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